add negotiating with doctors tip from anonymous

content/anecdotes/minor-day-surgery-0001.md

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+## Related Tips
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+- [Negotiating With Doctors]({{< ref "tips/negotiating-with-doctors" >}})
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+
 ## Footnotes
 
 [^1]: By "wrecked" I just meant another thing that made my illness hella worse for a brief period

content/tips/negotiating-with-doctors.md

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+---
+title: Negotiating With Doctors
+author: 
+  - Anonymous
+  - KemoNine (Ghost Writer)
+publishDate: 2023-03-23
+lastMod: 2023-03-23
+toc: true
+draft: false
+categories:
+  - tips
+  - doctors
+tags:
+  - negotiation
+  - surgery
+---
+
+## Changelog
+{{< changelog >}}
+{{< change 2023-03-23 "Initial creation" >}}
+{{< /changelog >}}
+
+{{< end_section >}}
+
+## You can negotiate with doctors
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+
+It may not be obvious but you *can* negotiate with your doctors about accommodating needs for what would normally be a trivial procedure, but isn't for us [the disabled].
+
+Even with a pacing strategy, adaptations when you know you are going to encounter a major challenge to your system can be important and discussing options with a health care provider shoud address these challenges.
+
+However, providers tend not to offer alternatives, adaptations or strategies unless prompted. It usually best to initiate a conversation with your provider instead of waiting for them to offer.
+
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+
+## When to negotiate?
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+
+Succinctly: every time.
+
+Trips to the dentist, travel, big events, sick loved one, all can require negotiations with health care providers.
+
+> This is gonna be hella hard on me, how do I mitigate that?
+
+If you are asking yourself how to midigate the difficulties, you should ask your doctor to work with you to mitigate your difficulties.
+
+It's also not just the name of the surgery or just "minor day surgery", which is the problem: "normal" people and doctors don't realize it isn't "minor" based on all the other shit I [we] have going on.
+
+So this is really about speaking up for accommodations other don't even realize you need. And I didn't realize I needed until I was on the other side and went: well THAT could have gone better.
+
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+
+## Related Anecdotes
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+
+- [Minor Day Surgery]({{< ref "anecdotes/minor-day-surgery-0001" >}})
+
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